Understanding Toddler Behaviour

19 Sep 2018

Understanding Toddler Behaviour

Welcome to toddlerhood: a time when outbursts of "no!" start to dominate your child's vocabulary. Toddler behaviour can delight, amuse, frustrate and confuse you. With talk of the ‘terrible twos’ toddlers can get a bad rap! There is no doubt about it - toddlers are experts at ruffling our feathers, but it is important to remember that their actions are not acts of defiance directed toward you.

Two year olds are developing independence and learning how to express frustration.  It is normal for toddlers to begin to struggle between their reliance on adults and their desire for independence. One minute your child might be clinging to you, and the next he or she is running in the opposite direction. Two-year-olds undergo major motor, intellectual, social and emotional changes. Their vocabularies are growing, they're eager to do things on their own, and they're beginning to discover that they're expected to follow certain rules. However, most 2-year-olds still aren't able to move as swiftly as they'd like, clearly communicate their needs or control their feelings. This can lead to frustration, misbehaviour and tantrums.

By accepting the changes your child is going through and taking the time to understand your child’s behaviour you can tune into their feelings and help them find positive ways to tell you what they need.  There is such a wealth of information on the internet on toddler behaviour that it can be difficult to negotiate and identify strategies to support your child to positively interact with others and to communicate their wants and needs. Our specialists at Oac have compiled some articles, websites and podcasts that we believe provide valuable tips for negotiating this exciting stage with confidence.


Toddler Behaviour @ Raising Children

5 common toddler behaviour issues and how to address them @ Bub Hub

Stop Negotiating with your Toddler (and what to do instead) @ Janet Lansbury

Why is my Child behaving this Way? @ Janet Lansbury

Helping Toddlers Succeed?  @ Janet Lansbury

9 Ways of Staying Mostly Unruffled with Toddlers @ Janet Lansbury

Behaviour Management Tips and Tools

Toddler Behaviour @ Kidspot

The Secret of Turning a Toddler’s No into a Yes @ Lisa Sunbury Gerber

Seven Weird Toddler Behaviours @ The Bump


Public Tantrums

A Toddler’s ‘do it myself’ attitude